Throughout our lives we go through experiences and it's no secret that many are challenges...some experiences are physical and others are more energetic - as in relationships or feelings, and as humans we have the ability to self heal any challenge that may arise.
A beautiful thing that happens when healing one challenge is that sometimes, just like the domino effect, it allows you to heal other challenges too.
Here's a very cool example that I've experienced in the past few weeks and want to share with you, as many of you are aware of my family relationship - you already know that my parents divorced many years ago and because of this, my dad left the country so face to face communication went away quickly.
Also, my relationship with him was strained even more because he never shared loving and caring feelings with me as I wished he would...maybe this is because he had grown up in a country and culture that is all about male figures being tough / masculine and not showing emotions such as love...but damn it! sometimes it just feels good to have your dad say to you "Son I love you" or "Son I'm proud of you"...
Well here's miracle number n-1 in my healing process, my dad said he loves me...not only that, but now he says he loves me every time we speak...OK maybe he needed a little push to accept that no matter what - saying I love you brings a higher quality to the feeling than comes with the emotion of love and just knowing that he loves me...no matter, this is SO important to me and already I feel that our relationship has started healing and our emotional connection has evolved from where it was just a few weeks ago.
We are surrounded with challenges and healing opportunities every day and with each act we have the ability to show love, joy, peace, and compassion and sometime just the act of saying a word our loud to show a feeling can be healing for us and to those closest to us...please listen up, especially you fathers out there...sometimes we should give a hug instead of just a smile...sometimes we should give a kiss instead of just a hug...and more than often we should say I love you instead of just giving a kiss...So with that, I love you baba and I love all of you who have inspired me to stay strong and share my experience with you in a time of unknown self realization and healing.
LOVE
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Three posts in a day! I love it! Such a beautiful and inspiring post.
ReplyDeleteThough it's so tough to not have the verbal communication and confirmation that we crave from someone we love, it has made you into one of the most amazingly communicative, openly loving people I have ever had the priviledge of knowing. Your father is learning from you...and he's fortunate to have such a patient teacher.
So well written cous. LOVE
ReplyDeleteWhat a post! I am so happy, Amir. I love you, too!!!! xxxooo
ReplyDeleteAmir joon, you are such an amazing human being. I greedily read all three posts after suffering from a long withdrawl. I am addicted to your blog and look forward to your posts. I am sending you, Talla joon, and Afsaneh joon a big hug, kiss, and Love!
ReplyDeleteI recorded the Brazil vs Portugal game... You didn't miss much.
Blessings, Tara
Amir jan I am inspired by your comment today. You are an amazingly strong and kind person. We all love you so much:)))))))
ReplyDeletemy mom (farideh) just read your latest posts and is deeply touched again. she feels very sorry about not being able to express her feelings about your meaningful words herself in english. so she`s looking forward to visit you soon and talk to you about her emotions as she wishes to.
ReplyDeleteshe strongly believes in your self-healing skills and gives you a big hug!
love... moha
I am so proud of you for sharing your emotions so bravely and beautifully with everyone around you. You know, it's not just in Iran, but in North America, many men do not know or wish not to express their feelings...
ReplyDeleteI know your dad as Ali Bolboli! :D When I was a kid he used to whistle like a nightingale...You have brought the nightingale to sing once again and this time with passion. XOXOXOXO
Amir joon, it should be us (your friends & family) who should be supporting and encouraging you...instead, it is YOU who gives us stength and inspiration! You are an enlightened being and we are all basking in your radiance. Your words are deeply beautiful and touching. Thank you. Blessings, Tara
ReplyDeleteThat's beautiful Amir. Kudos to your dad for expressing his love for you in a new and profound way.
ReplyDeleteSomeone said:
ReplyDeleteWatch your thoughts, they become words.
Watch your words, they become actions.
Watch your actions, they become habits.
Watch your habits, they become your character.
Watch your character, it becomes your destiny.
AmirAli joon you get this. Congratulations on practicing it now ...
Ali baba got lost along his path ... with your love, guidance, and wisdom ... he'll find it again soon ...
You are awesome daee :D
I am speechless Amir! which you all know, it doesn't happen that often!!!!!!:-))
ReplyDelete......please listen up, especially you MOTHERS out there.........
Love you Amir joon and I love it that you express your feelings. I love to abuse the word I love you.....I think people need to use it more often too and not just think about it. I love the fact that you always end our phone conversations with I love you. I am very happy that your dad finally expressed his real feelings for you. that is beautiful.
ReplyDeleteheeeeyyy....I can POST! finally! I think at least...non of the other flashing red messages came up last time, so hopefully...
ReplyDeleteAmir jooonam, I love you too. I am always keeping you in my prayers and while meditating send you my bestest energies. Was thinking the other day so glad you didn't come to Dubai...Life is sure strange, huh? It's wiser than us for sure anyhow...
lots of love and keep these posts coming, I look forward to them everyday.
booooooos
tandis
Hi Amir:)
ReplyDeleteI would imagine that everyone has a different reaction when they were informed about your situation(Vida, my mom, told me about your status..my mom couldn't stop crying for an hour).
My reaction was one of sadness and anger..."Why Amir?...why couldn't this happen to Hitler, Ahmadinejad, or some other asshole from the long and extensive gallery of assholes?"...I have not u seen since u were a teenager but i couldn't help reminiscing about our shared past: the huge grin u had when we came to visit your mom after she gave birth to Talla:)...our mischievous behavior at shomal...the soccer games at Tehran in the street that i used to reside...not to mention that memorable trip to that surreal "resort and vacation" town in Mexico...i still can't believe we got out of there alive...These and other recollection profoundly touch me...But what deeply moves me is your vigorous, tough, and spirited battle against cancer....I've read all your entries on this site...I admire your indomitable spirit...Amir, i am not a religious man...So i will not pray for u...However, i am willing to wager against anyone that u will overcome this obstacle with your physical and mental toughness:)...Best wishes and regards:)....Ali
p.s. I loved the paintings...very moving:)